FACING THE FACTS: WOMEN WITH(OUT) CLASS
By: Stefan Alexander Kempski
So, the question stands: What happened to women with class?
Where are the girls who know how to hold themselves? Where are the girls who know how to look sexy without looking like sluts? Where are the girls with culture? Did a giant asteroid wipe them all out like the dinosaurs? Since when did the majority of cute girls take life advice from MTV? How do girls expect to find guys worth dating when they're idea of partying is acting like they're on Spring Break in Cancun in front of a Girls Gone Wild camera crew?
The answer is that "class" is no longer a solidly defined term in the pop culture dictionary.
Taking a step back, it's easy to see why girls from their early teens to late 20's act the way they do. So, why? The answer is in the simple concept of where society has put the standard.
Taking a step back, it's easy to see why girls from their early teens to late 20's act the way they do. So, why? The answer is in the simple concept of where society has put the standard.
Before jumping in, let's take a few things into context: One, morals today are more like traffic lights in Italy; They're suggestions, nothing more. Two, the bar for how girls should act in a social setting has never been set lower. With mass marketed programs such as 'Sex and the City' and the quasi-reality TV shows MTV pumps out, women are presented as materialistic, shallow, sexual objects. The truth in that? Should be none. Yet due to popular public reaction, there is. Why? Because there is a significantly large group of viewers that take a look at that fiction and see it as a behavioral standard.
Not ok.
Really, really, really not ok.
But thanks anyway, MTV, for ruining the majority of dating as I know it.
Now for the hopeful part: There still are girls with class out there. I've met my handful girls that have really caught my attention as something more: They are the women with culture, realistic morals, and ideas that they can describe without using the word "like" as an adjective, noun, pronoun, verb, and all together thought.
I apologize if this seems cynical or judgemental. I don't intend it to be. There just hasn't been much evidence pointing away from it. Let's just be happy I didn't write an article on how love is shit, and we're all doomed to live Shakespearean tragedies with broken hearts. Thankfully, I can say I've got a little bit of hope.
So, to the girls who think this article is ridiculous because they embody the MTV standard: Please, for your own sake, snap out of it. No guy worth having is ever going to really look your way. Except to check you out, and move on to checking out the next generic girl wearing two popped polo’s, a mini skirt, and Uggz.
To the girls with class: Strut your stuff. It is unique, attractive, and, damn, is it sexy. I know guys can fall into stereotypes of their own, but there are still plenty of us out there that are looking for more than a one sided conversation.
The Post Script: Top Ten Things a Classy Guy Looks For
1) We care about what you think. Don’t be afraid to express your views. Because, guess what! If you agree with everything we say, we won’t care about what you think!
2) There's a fine line between dressing 'sexy' and dressing 'slutty.' It's very easy to cross, and it makes all the difference in the world.
3) Traditional isn’t a bad thing. If a classy guy hears a girl say “Hey, I’m not going to bang your brains out right away,” guess what, that’s actually great. It let’s us know two things: A) You have standards and B) You don’t have Herpes
4) Realize that dating is not a ‘game,’ it shouldn’t be a ‘game,’ and if you decide you’re going to play ‘games,’ we will very quickly find someone who doesn’t.
5) A kiss should say something. Don’t get me wrong, I like making out just as much as the next guy, but if there’s not anything behind it, why are you kissing me? Is it my abs? Or my deep, piercing eyes? I knew it. Just leave.
6) Clingy screams insecurity. We know you have insecurities. Truth is, EVERYONE DOES. But clinginess is not a good reminder. So, breathe. We are thinking about you. Probably more than football and videogames. Except on weekends, but still.
7) Romance and chivalry is a lost art. Don’t look at us like we’re crazy when we open a door for you.
8) Intimacy doesn’t always have to mean something sexual. Sometimes it means a couch, a blanket, hot chocolate, and an old movie.
9) Know yourself. Know your limits. Know your standards. If you don’t know yourself, how can you expect us to want to know you? If you have a big question mark over your head, it doesn’t exactly scream ‘keeper.’
10) I’m very well aware a lot of this can be applied the other way, so, no need to comment on that. Note that this article is written from the perspective of what a gentleman is looking to find in the world of dating and romance.
Hope you got something out of the read. I'm going to go take a shower now, and sing "Satisfaction" by the Rolling Stones while shampooing my hair.
~Stefan
